Compatibility and Conflict Report for

 

Dick Van Dyke

 

and

 

Mary Tyler Moore

 

 

 

 

Birth Data for Dick:

 

Dick Van Dyke

December 13, 1925

6:30 PM

West Plains, Missouri

 

 

 

 

Birth Data for Mary Tyler:

 

Mary Tyler Moore

December 29, 1936

10:45 AM

Brooklyn, N.Y.C., NY

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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††† Your birth chart interpretation is based on the positions of the planets at the time of your birth. For the benefit of students of astrology, these positions, along with other technical information, are listed below:

 

 

Positions and Data for Dick:

Sun†††††† position is 21 deg. 31 min. of Sagittarius

Moon††††† position is 27 deg. 42 min. of Scorpio†††

Mercury†† position is 15 deg. 58 min. of Sagittarius

Venus†††† position is7 deg. 42 min. of Aquarius††

Mars††††† position is 20 deg. 27 min. of Scorpio†††

Jupiter†† position is 24 deg. 49 min. of Capricorn

Saturn††† position is 20 deg. 58 min. of Scorpio†††

Uranus††† position is 21 deg. 37 min. of Pisces††††

Neptune†† position is 24 deg. 43 min. of Leo†††††††

Pluto†††† position is 14 deg. 07 min. of Cancer††††

Asc.††††† position is 14 deg. 41 min. of Cancer††††

MC††††††† position is 27 deg. 37 min. of Pisces††††

2nd cuspposition is9 deg. 09 min. of Leo†††††††

3rd cuspposition is3 deg. 14 min. of Virgo†††††

5th cuspposition is 12 deg. 51 min. of Scorpio†††

6th cuspposition is 17 deg. 28 min. of Sagittarius

 

Tropical/KOCH†† Standard time observed.†† GMT: 00:30:00

Time Zone: 6 hours West.†† Lat & Long: 36 N 43 41†† 91 W 51 08

 

 

Positions and Data for Mary Tyler:

Sun†††††† position is7 deg. 47 min. of Capricorn

Moon††††† position is 27 deg. 24 min. of Cancer††††

Mercury†† position is 27 deg. 22 min. of Capricorn

Venus†††† position is 21 deg. 20 min. of Aquarius††

Mars††††† position is 26 deg. 03 min. of Libra†††††

Jupiter†† position is6 deg. 13 min. of Capricorn

Saturn††† position is 17 deg. 11 min. of Pisces††††

Uranus††† position is5 deg. 43 min. of Taurus††††

Neptune†† position is 18 deg. 57 min. of Virgo†††††

Pluto†††† position is 28 deg. 04 min. of Cancer††††

Asc.††††† position is 13 deg. 06 min. of Pisces††††

MC††††††† position is 20 deg. 58 min. of Sagittarius

2nd cuspposition is 22 deg. 09 min. of Aries†††††

3rd cuspposition is 25 deg. 30 min. of Taurus††††

5th cuspposition is 12 deg. 12 min. of Cancer††††

6th cuspposition is8 deg. 35 min. of Leo†††††††

 

Tropical/KOCH†† Standard time observed.†† GMT: 15:45:00

Time Zone: 5 hours West.†† Lat & Long: 40 N 41 43†† 73 W 59 39


Dear friends:

 

Welcome to the Compatibility and Conflict Report and the myriad ways of expressing the continual dance of life. This report is based on methods employed through years of working with couples, observing relationships and analyzing the lives of the famous and infamous. The contacts described within this program are certainly not all the combinations possible between two people. But they are the core patterns of relationship analysis that I begin with in determining areas of compatibility and potential conflict between two people. I analyze these basic points of contact to arrive at my interpretation of what is central for an enduring relationship or for one that teaches something of importance and leaves a lasting impression. Additional parts, patterns and interpretations will be added to this report in the future.

 

In many of the interpretations, I've described the highest potential that one can strive for with a particular combination. Yet it is only a potential and we are human and have complex emotions and contradictory issues and reactions at any given time in our lives. Use this report as a guideline to make your relationships as rewarding and fulfilling as you possibly can. And know that your relationships are simply mirroring your own soul's struggles. Each relationship will fulfill something within you and challenge you to look at your shadow and transform yourself. Sometimes this means staying with a partner or a relationship and sometimes the learning process requires that you let the relationship go. These decisions are never easy and they should only be made after careful and truthful introspection, reflection and guidance. But ultimately, these decisions are yours and yours alone to make. Remember that variety is the spice of life and that although you may have some difficult areas of relating with a partner, it is in those areas that you can learn the most about yourself and others and grow in wisdom. It would be a mistake to look for a partner with whom you have no disagreements at all and this kind of relationship is a fantasy, rarely if ever, a reality.

 

Thank you for purchasing this report and I hope it is meaningful and useful to you.

 

Special thanks to John Flagg for unflagging editorial support.

 

To the mystery and magic of relationship chemistry,

Dorothy Oja

Copyright 2000


Chapter 1: Enjoyment, Closeness and Lasting Impressions

 

This section is based on the idea that there are three basic needs in every relationship:

 

* Interest, energy and stimulation or sexuality.

*Enjoyment,abundance,expansionofawarenessandhappiness.

* Patterns for commitment, consistency, teaching each other or reaffirming something essential one for the other and vice versa.

 

The sort between your charts is for eleven separate aspects that define energy, fun and lasting impressions between you. Most strong relationships have at least four to six of these aspects between their charts.

 

 

Dick's MC in Pisces and Mary Tyler's Asc in Pisces:

 

The personality style of the ASC partner is reflected somehow in the career path or objectives of the MC partner. The MC partner is inspired by the easy and natural expression of energy of the ASC partner and feels supported in career priorities, goals or needs. The ASC partner feels the career or goals of the MC partner harmonize or resonate with some innate aspect of their personality. Another intent of this aspect is to show how personality and career are related and intertwined. You will help each other with career choices and personal expression. Your personality may or may not be an advantage to your partnerís career objectives, that depends on other factors. However, a resonance is established because you reach out to the environment and pursue objectives sharing some similar values, interests or energy.

 

Dick's Sun Square Mary Tyler's Saturn:

 

There is a serious quality in your relationship and a strong bond with each other. You may feel obligated toward each other or there could be obstacles making it difficult for you to be together. It is important for you to determine the level of commitment and responsibility you are willing to make. There are bound to be some obstacles for you to overcome in your life together. You may find the challenges strengthening to your bond with each other or they may prove to be burdensome. You have chosen this level of relating in order to develop endurance, integrity or to build something lasting together. This aspect tests your sense of integrity and right and wrong. Either one of you may resist these forces and choose not to take on the challenge but if you do, you will be stronger for it. This aspect requires a level of maturity and acceptance of certain responsibilities. No wimps need apply. If you focus only on the difficulties between you they will loom larger. If you focus on resolvingyour problems with mutual respect, your relationship will grow stronger and more stable over time. You have something important to accomplish together. Whatever the developmental level that you are able to reach, this relationship will create an impact that will not soon be forgotten.

 

Mary Tyler's Moon Opp Dick's Jupiter:

 

This energy between you expresses the endless possibilities available and encourages the freedom to express your emotions. At the same time, the aspect leans towards excessive expression. Whether an expression is excessive, over the top or fitting for a particular context, is something the two of you will have to decide. How much is too much and the resultant consequences, is the learning curve you will be testing together. This aspect requires that both of you determine how you are exceeding your boundaries and whether thatís a good thing or not. Emotions will go out of control from time to time particularly when one of you is overwhelmed with too much to handle. The intent of this aspect is to teach you better judgment and encourage wisdom from the many and varied experiences you actively seek. There will be times of poor judgement when you will discover that you failed to take an important element of a situation into consideration. Resist saying "yes" until youíve evaluated the conditions or slept on the idea or proposition. Exaggeration and failing to keep promises will create problems for you and so will overoptimism without full knowledge of the facts. If you experience too much "bad luck", re-evaluate your choices and be sure to be generous wherever you can to maintain the balance between taking and giving in your lives together.

 

Mary Tyler's Mars Square Dick's Jupiter:

 

Expansion, risking, learning and traveling are part of your life together. Enthusiasm and bravado are high and, in general, you will seek out the good times of life. Having fun is an essential part of this aspect, and you are together, in part, to generate the belief that you can have or do what you really want to. There is a kind of compulsive restlessness with this aspect, to "grab for all the gusto you can." Be careful of overdoing it or using up all your available resources. In your zeal for adventure, you may overlook some important facts that will inevitably bring undesirable consequences. If you exceed your limitations one too many times, you could cause yourselves unnecessary misfortune. The intention of this energy combination between you is to strive for a generous life, all- encompassing, with more options and choices. Just be sure that the choices you make or the experiences you choose match your overall goals and have integrity. This aspect is particularly prone to questioning whether the end justifies the means. Incorporating spiritual principles will alleviate some of the negative implications of this aspect.

 


Chapter 2: Emotions and Communication Between You

 

These aspects detail the quality of the emotional connection and basic comfort between the two of you and your ease or difficulty in communicating, talking with each other and simply understanding where each of you is coming from. These aspects also describe how you reason together and resolve issues or problems.

 

 

Dick's Moon Trine Mary Tyler's Moon:

 

You are each blessed with a natural, easygoing and similar emotional style. You share some of the same rhythms and habits that will make daily contact more comfortable for each of you. Timing will not be as much of an issue, in that you can more easily and quickly respond to each other's emotional levels of excitement or energy and empathize with each other's disappointments, in ways that both of you feel met by the other. You can fire each other up and cool each other down because you'll frequently be riding the same emotional wave. You're able to support each other when feelings overflow. Basically, you both seek the same kinds of comforts and can relate easily to each other's peculiarities. In fact, you can accommodate your partner's idiosyncrasies with humor and even turn them into jokes that become part of the private fabric of your relationship life. If you share living space, you are likely to have domestic tastes that match easily. Environments that comfort and support you are more often than not, shared by your partner. Social connections and the types of people you choose to interact with will be similar. And you will appreciate the fact that you love the same interests and are able to share and enjoy numerous different activities together. This is not to say that at times you won't be totally perplexed by each other's reactions because there are other factors in each of your personalities that must be considered. Also, if your upbringing is very different, it will add to the emotional adjustments you will need to make. Still, on the whole it seems easier for the two of you to make these adjustments.

 

Dick's Mercury in Sagittarius, and Mary Tyler's is in Capricorn:

 

Although you are attracted to each other, there are times when one of you will have great difficulty in figuring out where the other is coming from and what she (or he) is trying to tell you. Your styles of communication can be very different. The premises upon which you base your reasoning or the logic you use will often perplex your partner. Especially if you have to decide on projects or activities together, your differences can quickly become an issue between you. Talking things through slowly, step by step, will help each of you to understand how the other arrived at his (or her) opinion or conclusion. This will take patience but in the end will be worth it. What's more, by taking the time to really understand how your partner is thinking, you can not only learn something important about your partner but also get a different perspective yourself. You will also learn how your communication affects others, since your partner is probably not the only one who can't always understand what you're trying to say or figure out your logic. You've attracted this kind of relationship exactly for the purpose of fine tuning your thought processes and becoming more adept and flexible in the ways you have of communicating with others. This will be doubly useful if you are in a business that requires writing or regularly communicating with others.

 


Chapter 3: Fulfilling Each Other's Partnerships Needs

 

These aspects explain how you meet each other's desires and dreams in special partnerships and one-on-one relationships. These aspects are based on what your natal chart describes that you're looking for in any major relational interaction.

 

 

Dick's Moon Sextile Mary Tyler's 7th house ruler, Mercury:

 

There is a subtle emotional communication between you. Often a subliminal understanding of each otherís moods means that you can intuit what your partner is about to say or do. And you communicate quite easily on a wide variety of topics. There will, however, be a strong emotional content to your communication. And you will often want to discuss your feelings and concerns with each other. The quality of your communication with each other, not so much what you say but how you say it, will be important to the harmony between you. Domestic and family concerns are important topics between you and learning to problem-solve sensitive issues that one or both of you both feel strongly about, will be one of your challenges. Nurturing and creating spaces for development to take place - such as, but not limited to, safe environments for children, teens or women is a strong possibility. The common denominator in many of your projects is creating situations that are nurturing as well as informative. The intent of this aspect is to make you aware of the emotional undercurrents of language and how voice tone and inflection can make all the difference in your communication and how others receive it. Processing what youíve learned separately and together will be necessary on a very regular basis. Whether or not you feel heard by your partner and that your opinion is acknowledged is another crucial learning in your relationship.

 

Dick's Jupiter Conj Mary Tyler's 7th house ruler, Mercury:

 

You encourage a restlessness and wanderlust in each other and a yearning or seeking for a better quality of life. Itís very possible the two of you could travel together or somehow expand your normal boundaries by learning, teaching, writing and adventuring. You will appear to others as very positive in your outlook, broadminded and generous in nature. Your enthusiasm is infectious and you will encourage others to reach out or take greater risks for themselves. Guard against the tendency to exaggerate or make promises that you canít or wonít keep. If you want to embellish your experiences or discoveries, then share your adventures in a positive framework such as storytelling, writing, art, photography or other such outlets. Sleep on any really important or major life decisions and always consider the long-term consequences of your actions, words or decisions. The intent of this aspect is to teach you wisdom through the experience of sharing adventures, making choices and testing your limits. Not all opportunities are created equal and not all of them are worth your time and energy. Some things are not worth the risk but others are. This aspect will teach you the difference between the two.

 

Dick's MC Sextile Mary Tyler's 7th house ruler, Mercury:

 

Initially, you will be attracted to each other through some form of communication, or a situation of learning, writing, commuting or social networking. Communication, learning, traveling, youth services, writing - any of these can be important interests or activities in the course of your ongoing relationship. How you relate and talk to each other, or your favorite topics of discussion will have some impact on either one or the otherís career. Balancing career commitments with leisure and at home time is another issue that will require your negotiation and communication. The intent of this aspect is to make you aware of the important role of language and communication in the overall successful functioning of your relationship. You are together to share knowledge, not only with each other but also within your community circle which can include, but is not limited to, local schools, churches, politics, programs for children or young adults or any number of other community services that attract your interest.

 

Mary Tyler's Venus Square Dick's 7th house ruler, Saturn:

 

After just a short while together, you may feel that your relationship has a fated quality or that you were meant to be together in some important way. It's possible that you can recognize the reasons you are together easily or they may develop over time. Whether you have a conscious understanding of what draws you to each other is not as important as your acknowledgement of the inescapably deep feelings you do have. There is a certain amount of ambition that comes with this combination, and you will have to decide how to balance and mesh your careers with your personal life. Your commitment to each other is likely to be tested, and how you pass the tests will set the course of your life or contract together. Each of you may bring personal responsibilities to the relationship and you will tend to create more in your partnership together. You will gradually determine patterns and boundaries that suit your style and fit the level of responsibility and leadership you wish to assume. The intent of this aspect is to bring you in touch with the core principles by which you live and the standards that define your characters. The strength and reliability you display will be recognized by others, and they will trust you with as much responsibility as you are able and willing to shoulder.

 

Mary Tyler's Saturn Trine Dick's 7th house ruler, Saturn:

 

Your relationship could have a slow beginning, since you bring out the cautious parts of each other. You are both somewhat reluctant about making any kind of important commitment. Neither of you is naturally inclined to make promises that you donít intend to keep. You are both aware of what is required in terms of time and energy and you will not make promises lightly. In fact, it is just these principles that you tend to bring out in each other. You will be challenged around your sense of timing and your ability to perfect your techniques and talents and reach a level of excellence and expertise. You are both aware of the importance of a strong foundation and of the detriment of a lack of one. The way you were raised or parented will have great influence on how you conduct yourselves in your relationship. The intent of this aspect is to make you aware of going slowly, so that you can construct a solid foundation on which to build a life and dreams, whatever partnership or specific career goals you have. Recognition and achievement are important elements within your relationship. Life will bring its share of disappointments but if you can support each other during those times, your relationship will be stronger because of the trials youíve endured together.

 

Mary Tyler's Neptune Sextile Dick's 7th house ruler, Saturn:

 

There is an intangible, mysterious, possibly even mystical quality to the way the two of you relate. You may even have felt confused by what you sensed from each other, especially when you first met. There is no question that, because of this combination of energies, you will challenge each other's sense of reality. You will want to indulge in romantic or fantasy notions, which is delightful as long as you donít get blinded to important realities. Sooner or later, a sobering effect will take hold and you will have to see each otherís feet of clay. This can mean disappointment if you are unable to blend the dreams and magic with a practical reality. However, if you can make your dreams survive everyday necessities and pragmatic conditions, you will have the best of all partnerships. The work you do may bring you in contact with artists and other creative types. You could also share a past history of substance abuse and addiction in your close family ranks. This can be a tricky aspect but a strong spiritual sensibility or orientation will help to counter any unrealistic or negative escapist tendencies. Do not keep secrets from each other, as that will backfire and cause great hurt to the sensitivities youíve yielded to each other. The intent of this aspect is to teach you to tread softly on your partner's dreams, support the tender places of your partner's heart and the sore spots we all have from lifeís battles. A deep soul connection is possible if you have reached a selfless and responsible maturity or are willing to work on it.

 


Chapter 4: Your Closest Contacts, Your Strongest Themes

 

This section interprets the closest connections between your charts. The idea is that the closest ties explain the major or central themes of your relationships and the reason you have come together. The nature of these aspects will also define the main activities, interests and patterns that comprise your life together.

 

Notice that in this section each paragraph contains both the easier expression of energies as well as the more challenging ones. Both interpretations are included because these close connections pertain to the central learning curve of your relationship. Based on the premise that the more exact the connection (also the closest energetic contact) between your pair of planets, the more psychologically significant the aspect will be for each of you. This means that you are likely to be strongly influenced by each other in the areas described. Because of this, it will be useful to consider both the easier and more challenging interpretations even though you lead with one of them. You will, from time to time and in various circumstances, probably exhibit some elements of each group, both the easier expressions as well as the more challenging ones. Another thing -- it's possible with both types of aspects that you will have the same challenges but simply respond or react to them in different ways. The goal is to rise to the best possible expression of each combination. This is the learning curve and this bestows wisdom.

 

 

Mary Tyler's Moon Trine Dick's MC (easier aspect):

 

If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme concerns the quality of your emotional responses, particularly in the contexts and environments of home and workplace.

 

Easier aspects: You appear to have a knack for responding sincerely to others and others respond to you because of your naturalness. No matter what your position in life, you manage to remain approachable and concerned for the feelings and needs of others. You are either devoted to family or to career or mange to balance both. If someone is in need, you will find a way to help. Caring for others, particularly your family, always comes first.

 

Challenging aspects:You may have some difficulty in getting the response you want from others. Or you could find that the emotions you struggle with prevent you from being as responsive as you would like in your career or even in domestic matters. Lack of emotional boundaries or taking unfair advantage of others' emotional weaknesses or personal experience of being taken advantage of, can make life difficult for you. Sorting through your emotional needs and responses will help.

 

Dick's Sun Sextile Mary Tyler's Venus (easier aspect):

 

If this is the most exact contact between your charts, you will be concerned with the quality and balance of your relationship. In fact, all the relationships that arise as a result of your partnership will be of great importance to you. How to resolve conflict through cooperation and negotiation will be a core preoccupation.

 

Easier aspects: There is a natural sweetness and harmony in your life together. You are genuinely fond of each other and appreciate each other's qualities and gifts. It will be easier for the two of you to define a relationship style that both of you can agree upon. And, you can easily express your tender and loving feelings for each other. Your social life will be full and you will actively seek social occasions.

 

Challenging aspects: Although you do appreciate and genuinely like each other, there will be times that you act in ways that seem to be unkind, inconsiderate, or lack caring. At those times, you will appear to be taking your partner for granted and that is not good for your relationship. No relationship can survive without sufficient praise and acknowledgement. Self-indulgence or spending can be an issue. Compromising too much to satisfy your partner and thus losing self-esteem can be another sore point.

 

Mary Tyler's Venus Square Dick's Saturn (challenging aspect):

 

If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme concerns the values of seriousness, integrity, trust, commitments and contracts.

 

Challenging aspects:It's possible there are obstacles to being committed in love or in business that will frustrate both of you. Timing can be an issue - you may wait too long and delay your decision until the opportunity has passed by. You will learn by trial and error your own rhythm of timing, and when making a move or taking action feels right to you. Avoid negative criticism of yourself and others, because it is counterproductive. It's also only part of the whole picture.

 

Easier aspects:You are cautious when getting involved and look for trustworthiness and quality in others, but these are also what you are willing to give. You feel most content with familiar repeated patterns or habits and with creating financial and emotional security. The stability of marriage or formal business contracts appeals to your careful and methodical nature. You are well organized and reliable and tend to keep your word. Others will seek out these admirable abilities. You will be offered positions of responsibility and leadership, and your sense of timing is excellent.

 

Dick's Moon Trine Mary Tyler's Moon (easier aspect):

 

If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is emotional harmony and free emotional expression in your daily life. Mundane concerns and home and family issues will preoccupy you. More than likely you will share living space or spend large chunks of time together in one location or environment.

 

Easier aspects:As you get to know each other, you will be pleased that you share very similar tastes and emotional sensibilities. You will feel quite comfortable with each other. Creating a pleasing, cozy and secure home environment will be much easier for you, because you tend to like the same styles and have the same tastes. Often, you will be preoccupied with family matters, and each of your families is likely to play and important role in your relationship.

 

Challenging aspects:It is more difficult for the two of you to be in sync with each other because of this aspect. When one is up, the other may be down, or one of you is a night person while the other is an early bird. Timing can be tricky, and it will take some adjustment to find a way to relate and reduce frustrations. Certain habits or idiosyncrasies of your partner can be almost unbearable for you. With time, patience and love, each of you can modify the most offensive irritants, and the rest will simply have to be tolerated if you plan to share a residence.

 

Dick's Moon Trine Mary Tyler's Pluto (easier aspect):

 

If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme concerns managing the deep feelings you arouse in each other. Learning to channel the powerful emotions generated by your partnering is your next challenge.

 

Easier aspects:Your bond is strong and focused, you can change anything you train your attention on. The power generated by this aspect cannot be contained by your relationship alone. You will find yourselves involved in organizations where powerfully committed people like yourselves gather to make things happen. Being analytically inclined, you can be problem solvers or a healing force in business or in your community. Beyond that, you are survivors and can regenerate in spite of any difficulties you may encounter.

 

Challenging aspects:You will need to work through some power struggles and even some psychological demons you bring with you from past experiences. Curbing reactiveness and projection is something you will be challenged to resolve through trial and error. Because your feelings are so intense, fear of loss can be generated, which in turn can give rise to jealousy, control or possessiveness. These emotional responses will not get you what you want. If you can't easily resolve your conflicts, seek professional help. Once you settle your power struggles with each other, you will have much to offer the world and your community.

 

Mary Tyler's Mercury Trine Dick's 4th house cusp (easier aspect):

 

If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is presenting your particular message to your community and family and in your career. You can be in the marketing, advertising, journalism, teaching or writing worlds, because your language and communication skills are clearly obvious.

 

Easier aspects:Much of your communication and conversation with each other focuses on practical career matters or issues pertaining to your top priorities, including your home and family life. Other possible interests concern the education of children or the continued development of your own numerous interests and skills. You are recognized and sought out in your community for communications, teaching or learning skills. You will also offer ideas and opinions and help to each other in career matters.

 

Challenging aspects:Your many skills and interests can at times distract you from your primary relationship goals. Spending time regularly going over the list of activities you are committed to and weeding out those that are not relevant to your goals will keep you from getting overwhelmed and underproductive. Scattering your energies will dissipate your message and keep you from your primary goals. Although you need variety, grouping your interests and tackling a few projects at a time will help you achieve more in a shorter period. Back up your talk with action.

 

Mary Tyler's Pluto Trine Dick's MC (easier aspect):

 

If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is one of expressing your power and potential fully and completely and creating advantages and an example for others in the process.

 

Easier aspects:You probably felt a strong connection with your partner when you first met. Each of you knew that you were curious about the other. Your interest was piqued and you wanted to know, what makes this person tick? Your partner is a powerful person and could easily be powerful in their chosen career. As partners, your work in the world will develop and grow faster than for either of you alone. You could be in business together or otherwise collaborate on projects. There is an insistence in your energies that wants to transform outworn systems and breathe new life into them. In the same sense, you will always find ways to renew your own relationship. And as you process your struggles, your bond will become stronger and stronger.

 

Challenging aspects:You are drawn to and even magnetized by each other. The feelings you have for your partner can at times be overpowering. If you're not careful, you can overreact and express such negative emotions as jealousy, rage, possessiveness and attempting to control your partner. Make no mistake, everyone has these feelings, but, if they take over your relationship and are excessive or bring pain, then you'll need some professional counseling. There is great energy between you and you have the potential to be quite successful. Make sure, however, that your big plans are legal and ethical and, if you put up big stakes that you've researched the risk and the expenditures are worth it.

Dick's Moon Sextile Mary Tyler's Mercury (easier aspect):

 

If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship themes are emotional and mental communication and having a network of friends. You will communicate intuitively and will enjoy discussing your feelings. You tend to be honest and matter-of-fact about the state of your emotions.

 

Easier aspects:It's very possible that you will find yourselves talking endlessly about many different topics. Your relationship is healthier when you have a free flow of communication and emotional release. You will enjoy being around others who like to speak freely and often on many different topics. It's possible that at least one of you is a writer or teacher or has a career in communications.

 

Challenging aspects:There are times, no matter how hard you try, that you will simply talk past each other and fail to understand what the other person is trying to communicate. This can be extremely frustrating. Take your time, breathe and keep trying to state things in different ways until you find that your partner understands what you mean. Fortunately, you have the impetus to want to communicate, so with some trial-and-error you will find the way.

 

Dick's Sun Conj Mary Tyler's MC:

 

If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme concerns the quality and success of home, family and career matters. Where you are headed will be a vital question.

 

Challenging aspects:There may be power or ego issues between you when it comes to career and family concerns. Do not make a battleground of your relationship. Take regular time to sit down and process each of your fears and concerns, so that both of you feel heard and acknowledged. Do not let false pride or hurt feelings take over the natural joy you feel when you are together. Spend plenty of time playing with each other. If you have children, make sure you balance your time alone and your time parenting.

 

Easier aspects:Making compromises and balancing career and family interests will be easier for you to handle. One or both of you will be well established or recognized in your chosen field. Supporting each other and loyalty toward each other's goals and concerns come naturally to you. Since you prefer order, creating a balance between family life and your duties at work seems easier to accomplish.

 

Dick's Uranus Square Mary Tyler's MC (challenging aspect):

 

If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is to bring new, original ideas and advanced humanitarian perspectives into community, home and career.

 

Challenging aspects:You will shift each other's perceptions about your career or family life. You will seek to bring in new elements or advanced ideas. Sometimes, however, your methods are too abrupt and you can shock others with your style. It's possible you will at times become embroiled in controversy, since your energies attract it. If you soften your approach, you may receive more support. Also be sure that what you are fighting for is worth the disruption.

 

Easier aspects: Together, you can be agents for change for each other and also elevate and introduce original thinking into your workplace. Your home is likely to have unusual elements or a unique mixture of household members. It's possible you have a career that is out of the ordinary or highly creative or both. Truthfulness and honesty are high values between you, and you seek to be forthright in all your dealings.

 

Mary Tyler's Venus Square Dick's Mars (challenging aspect):

 

If this is the most exact aspect between your charts, your main relationship theme is to understand the opposing forces and needs for both harmony and conflict in your relationship life. How you handle conflict is both the problem and the solution.

 

Challenging aspects: There's more of an edge to your conflicts and sometimes your arguments can go too far, and you hurt each other. If you see frustration mount between you, do something about it immediately before you create negative patterns that are hard to break. You may want to seek professional help to find ways both to reduce and diffuse areas of conflict. If you're going to fight, learn how to fight fair. Your conflicts will always be there to some extent, but you can diminish the escalation. It's also worthwhile to recognize and appreciate the effort that both of you put into your relationship.

 

Easier aspects: Conflict is a fact of life, but the two of you seem to have learned quickly a way to deal with your differences in a productive and mutually satisfactory way. There's always likely to be a little sparring between you and some healthy debate, but perhaps that's something you enjoy. Finding a balance between the assertive and harmonizing qualities of relationship and life appear to come more easily to you. Others are charmed by the way you handle yourselves as a couple.